Don’t know if this approach might help or not, but I would give it a try. Instead of talking to your mother about her mental status, her changes, her decline, etc. drop that topic altogether instead bring up solutions without ever mentioning her problem. Something like, wondering if we Get a housekeeper to help me keep everything tidy. My friend Jane is very lonely and wants to develop more friends in the area so I wonder if it would be a good idea to have her come over and spend some time with us.

I found with my mother that discussing anything of that nature was never very productive however, she was always a pretty sociable, woman, and when helpers and caregivers came to her, she eventually saw as a visit from friends not as caregivers! I would give it a try. I think with a lot of people whether they have memory issues or not as they get older Their instantaneous response to any outright conclusion/statement is a great big no! When it’s presented in a friendly or non-caretaker way, I. E. A friend coming over, you may still get an initial note that won’t be quite as strong, but as you will be present in the early stages, you can just approach it that she’s here for me! Then you gradually work yourself out of that equation. Not sure it would work all of the time, but I do think it might work some of the time?