Yes, it is very stressful. I was in the hospital for another condition and a neurologist I didn’t know came in to say they saw a large brain tumor by my optic nerve and needed to see a neurosurgeon. When he left I burst into tears. I hadn’t cried in years but it was overwhelming. The neurosurgeon is key in handling it. I used the one recommended by the neurologist, part of the same group. If you can find a neurology group associated with a good hospital it could help you get started.