@farmboy you are likely going to experience a wide range of emotions during this process. It's not a linear one. Please read my posts on waves and windows, and post acute withdrawal. Knowledge is power! And a good reminder that much of this is due to the drug, its NOT a reflection on who you are. I'm very fortunate that my husband was open to learning about the process I'm going through and that he handles my many changes.. sometimes better than I do! Maybe you and your girlfriend can read some information with you and together you will be better prepared. You can get through this!