@cheryl4mgk Thanks for the advice. I just feel that there is so much that I have done to prepare myself, and then all the tests and everything, at my age (61) am finally wanting to do something about my weight because it is the only way the orthopedic surgeon will give me a new hip, and I have been in horrible pain for a year and a half, and getting gel shots in my knees which helps my knee, but I need a new hip, trying to lose weight with a high protein diet, low carbs and fat, and joined a gym where I swim twice a week for an hour, and recently started having time in the gym to do some steps and weight bearing exercises, and plan to hire a personal trainer to help me get started with weight lifting, and doing the "routine" the right way so I can continue after RNY surgery. I know the surgery will also probably help me lose my diabetic medications and might be thin for the very first time in my life. I attend as many support groups that I can find and hear wonderful stories, but nobody tells me the bad things that have happened, which is the premise for my questions earlier. Have one surgery so I can have the other surgery to get a new hip seems like a silly idea, my husband loves me the way I am, and I only need to lose 30 pounds for a new hip. I'm thinking about the money, the time I have put in, and no surgery date yet, I guess I have to clear through dietary first, that's a few more MONTHS, and it is just delaying and delaying and I am frustrated. Anyone can answer if you are reading my plight, feelings and motivation (that I'm losing).
Thanks!