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Thank you so much for your kind words and understanding. We had the funeral yesterday and I am just so numb today. I knew he was dying but now it seems like he went so fast once he entered the hospice house. There on Wednesday and gone on Sunday. But I am thankful that his pain was managed and he got the best care possible. Yes, I know I have to deal with lots of paperwork, etc. He has some bills that I will have to continue to pay but until the financial stuff gets worked out, I can't. I will call them. He had credit cards in his name only and there is no way I can pay them. After I pay all my bills there is not enough left over to pay off his credit cards. But I know God will help me through this. My own bills are coming due and I just don't have the energy right now, but I need to buckle down and pay them before I get tons of late charges added on. Yes, my family and friends were all there for me, but my youngest son is taking this so hard. He is not handling this well at all. Once again, thank you.
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Denise,
I just wanted to let you know that you don't have to tell every creditor that your husband died; thus giving yourself some time to get your finances in order. Some will know from Social Security or the government but not all. So take your time and pray about it. Of course, things will have to be paid eventually but having time helps. I took my time informing creditors when my husband died because Social Security and my husband's pension didn't happen for a couple months! They even stopped my Social Security because I would be getting my husband's. But that didn't occur right away. I was living totally on our savings!
I'm so glad we had some! When the pension and social security did finally occur 2 months and lots of phone calls later, things were alright and I could pay what was owed. Also if you didn't have a joint account at the bank then the bank can "hold" the account. I don't know for how long but when I found that out in my research it was frightening! However, we did have a joint account so it was OK.
I'm sorry your son is having such a hard time with his father's passing. Just remind him that his father is up in Heaven with God and Jesus and out of pain and that eventually he will be with him again.
I wish you both the best at this hard time. I'll say a prayer for you and your family.
PML