Cancer won

Very sorry for your loss and your pain. I'm grateful that you were able to find a place that could give him the care he needed. May you find comfort in memory of happier days.

Denise @denise96, I'm sorry that your time with him was shortened by lung cancer. I'm glad that his final days were spent in a place that you both could find comfort in.
Hoping that you find peace in remembering the better times that you shared. Thanks for updating us, take care of yourself, hugs.

When you are ready, you may want to check out the Loss and Grief group: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/loss-grief/

Thank you.

Denise,
I'm so sorry to hear of your husband's death. From what you had written to me earlier this year, it didn't sound like he was doing well. However, now he is out of pain and up in Heaven with God and Jesus. Be thankful for that. You were right there for him through the whole time. That is wonderful! I'm sure your husband appreciated all that you did for him. That is so nice that he was in such a good hospital at the last! And, a religious one too! It's also nice that you have your son with you at this time.

Life will be different for you now but it does get better in time. My husband died in July, 2024. It is much easier for me now than it was in July and August. Just pray and God will be with you. I pray all the time and my prayers get answered.

I'm here if you ever want to talk or have questions. There are a lot of little business details to see to after a loved one dies such as the bank account, health insurance, taxes etc.

I will say a prayer for you.
PML

Thank you so much for your kind words and understanding. We had the funeral yesterday and I am just so numb today. I knew he was dying but now it seems like he went so fast once he entered the hospice house. There on Wednesday and gone on Sunday. But I am thankful that his pain was managed and he got the best care possible. Yes, I know I have to deal with lots of paperwork, etc. He has some bills that I will have to continue to pay but until the financial stuff gets worked out, I can't. I will call them. He had credit cards in his name only and there is no way I can pay them. After I pay all my bills there is not enough left over to pay off his credit cards. But I know God will help me through this. My own bills are coming due and I just don't have the energy right now, but I need to buckle down and pay them before I get tons of late charges added on. Yes, my family and friends were all there for me, but my youngest son is taking this so hard. He is not handling this well at all. Once again, thank you.

Dearest Denise- I pray that God will put his hands on you and bless you with comfort, courage, and peace! You have been through so much! Such a whirlwind of fighting to help Joe! Now you can BOTH rest! Now comes the whirlwind of emotions. I felt grief, then relief, then anger, and then guilt for feeling relieved. It’s all normal! There is no time frame for your feelings or your grief. We don’t “Get over” our loved ones or their passing, we just eventually, in our own time, move forward. Don’t be afraid to laugh! Remember good times, silly times, etc. It’s also okay to cry! Both of these are releases that you need for your mental health! Well meaning people may say incredibly stupid or even hurtful comments, but not on purpose. If they haven’t been through it they don’t truly understand and are just trying to help you. God has Joe! He has YOU too! Take your time, and take care of yourself now. Don’t feel guilty for doing something YOU enjoy! Pamper yourself a bit. You’re going to be okay! Prayers for YOU and your family🙏❤️ Cindy

Thank you.

Hi Denise:
It saddens me to read of your husband Joe's passing. You are in my thoughts.

Frank

Dear Denise, I am shocked and saddened to see this post! I can only imagine how you must be reeling after the suddenness of your husband's death. It was so crazy what you were going through but looking back I am sure you could never begrudge how your husband looked for painkillers and lots of cigarettes to get him through his pain. It helped him. Just very surprised to see it was you who posted this today. You found a good place for him to be that was very caring to him and I am sure to you too. God bless you Denise for being so open and vulnerable to the rest of us who are going through our own cancer journeys with our loved ones. For now don't worry about the bills and finances - everyone should be more than understanding. Just eat well now and relax and rest - and let us know how it is going - Susan

Thank you for such a caring response. I wanted to post this on here as I have posted many times on here and responded to many. Yes, he was in a wonderful place and went in comfort and peace. I will miss him. My family and friends have been very supportive. I am getting lots of rest because because about 7:30 p.m. comes along, I am exhausted and ready for bed. Thank you so much.