Hi,
I have the same problem as you do. My incontinence has increased a lot. I wear two large Poise pads. I put toilet paper on top of them. That way I only have to change the toilet paper for most of the day. When I do go somewhere I try and drink less liquids but not to the point of being dehydrated. That's a good idea about taking a pad to sit on. I might consider doing that. I have noticed that even with just sitting a while I leak a lot. I have found that it's easier to deal with this if I shop close to my house or a store with a public bathroom; although I hate using public bathrooms! I always carry extra pads in my purse.

There was a procedure for this that I had done some years ago. It worked great! I didn't leak for quite a few years but then it started again. I went back to the same doctor and she said they don't use that procedure anymore. She suggested a couple other procedures but also stated they didn't always work a lot of the time. She said that I might just want to "live with it." So, I am. I'm 78 so I don't have the social life that I had when I was younger and my husband was still alive. I stay home a lot and that makes it easier.

I also pray about this a lot and it seems to have gotten somewhat better. God is always there for us. We just have to ask.
I wish you the best and will say a prayer for you.
PML