Hi @cnutt
Advice I got from our geriatrician was to tell my husband (with Moderate Alzheimer's) that I was bringing in a caregiver to help me. I haven't done it yet as he still functions well.
Maybe the helper could ease in by helping you do some household chores and start doing things for your husband slowly. As s/he gains his trust, s/he can do more for him.
Also our geriatrician told me to have credit freezes in place before bringing anyone into our home and only get help from agencies or persons that are bonded and insured.
Good luck!