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Stefan, there is something wonderful about how much people want to help us solve our problems.
If we talk about these problems, most will think we are asking for advice, when often we are just asking to be heard, understood.
If you disregard the elements of their opinions, distill their expression to its essential caring, it easy to appreciate their efforts. You don't have to consider the value of what they say to let their (bad) advice make you feel cared about.
It can even be funny to get advice from someone who has never come close to experiencing what you have. You can play with expressions like, "How do you know this?" I find it best to say, "Oh, I can see how much you care."

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Thank you for understanding