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Trying to feel normal but don’t know what that is.
Addiction & Recovery | Last Active: Feb 24 11:17am | Replies (28)Comment receiving replies
In the AA book ‘AAComes of Age’ Cocreator Bill Wilson says that when getting down to ‘causes and conditions’ to our alcoholism eventually we should visit Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families due this reason more than anything else We were likely borne in it and perceive the Dysfunctional behaviors as ‘NORMAL’ … yet it is not healthy. The parents are not to blame but just passing on an emotional inheritance of unhealthy dysfunctional life. Besides, to ‘Blame’ is to B-Lame’. I recover my dysfunctional childhood carrying within me my emotional child and reparent him everyday - this is how we recover from ‘Arrested Development’ of childhood trauma, grief, and abuse or neglect.
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To Bruce, thank u 4 your comment. Can we agree to disagree???? My parents ARE TO BLAME FOR THEIR DYSFUNCTION!!!! The never and I can TRUTHFULLY say never!!!! They refused to change. They were sooo closed minded and my mother was so narcissistic that she couldn't even go to therapy. She didn't think that there was anything wrong with her. I bought her a book over 30 yrs ago when I got sober that I had been sexually abused 4 the first 15 years of my life. But she didn't choose to support me OR HERSELF. This book was to help her to understand incest , to understand ME!! She chose Not 2 read it to protect herself to not jeopardize her emotional comfort. She NEVER, and I mean never took consideration for me! She was very much a black and white kinda thinker. She didn't WNT 2 change because nothing was wrong with her!!! I DO know that she's from a dysfunctional family as well but even when I talked to her recently thru a medium, she explained that she was raised that way. And I understand that, however she never once offered an apology for her behavior. But she DID offer me support . I will never 4give either of them and I don't have to. I'm just riding a very very long wave!!!!!!