I too have a similar situation. My daughter is just beginning to push me and my husband away. She is being encouraged by her husband and his family to turn away from me in particular. Her husband's mother has openly accused me of trying to control them. Which is ironic since her in-laws bought a house two blocks from their house. Her mother-in-law sends me texts at night ( I think when she is drunk) telling me to leave them alone. We live about 5 miles from them but make it a point to give them their space. Never drop in uninvited and only call to have dinner with them about once a month. Now they have informed us they are taking their son, our grandson, and moving out of state(Texas). His mother has expressed that she has hated Texas since she moved here. And his mother has told them she intends to follow them to whatever town they end up in. I have never been angry or confrontational to her husband or family though there were times I had to bite my tongue. I asked my daughter to come over alone and talk. She did. But her husband was furious with me that I didn't invite him and that he was not part of the conversation. It's getting scary. Like they are brain washing her. I know my daughter loves her family. Her older brother told me over the holidays that he is beginning to feel like she's pushing him away too. Wish I knew a good way to handle this before it gets worse.