@lorihgk It is Ok to ask for help. I needed help after my single level fusion. It’s a bit strange when your pride doesn’t want to ask for help and you need it. If it was someone else, you’d offer to help with even simple things. No one will expect you to shine when you are recovering from surgery. It’s ok to relax and you’re going to be very tired when healing. Maybe it won’t be your norm for awhile. Toward the end of my recovery, I was at the grocery store in my neck brace and lots of people were offering to get items from the shelves for me and it was kind of nice that they cared.