I froze when I read your comment. I was numb after my diagnosis in June 2021. I live in a large metro with many cancer treatment facilities and lucky to have a teaching hospital to get my treatment. everything moved fast; diagnosis, testing for type, size, treatment plan. Since my cancer was aggressive, treatment started 2 weeks later. Not all cancers are that aggresive so many people have time to think and weigh options. I'm glad I didn't have time to think!

Cry when you need to, sleep when you're tired, get emotioal help from family, friends, professionals You don't need to do this alone. Come back here, we all have similar experiences.

Iwish you good help

So sorry, people don't realize we have to cry. Losing breast to cancer is a terrible loss. I was diagnosed Nov 24 2024.. Just had surgery Feb 7 2025.. They are gone nothing can fix that feeling. I remember when I finally got to cry. We will make it.

Solo piensa que todo va a ir bien. Es importante. Un inmenso abrazo.

Hi @mnina

I am sorry for your diagnosis.

I was diagnosed September 27, 2024. Mastectomy October 23, 2024. And reconstruction March 5, 2025.

I have cried a lot, too. Especially the day I had to clean out my bra drawer and make room for all the new items with pockets for drains, etc.

For me, crying is an important part of life. And I am okay with crying and being sad. Having cancer is scary and hard. Having any part of your body removed is next level. And, honestly, it’s worth crying about.

I think of the patients (adults and children) in hospitals. And it makes me feel like I can deal with my own situation, because people face all kinds of suffering. And they cry. And the people who love them cry.

You are not alone. Crying is part of being alive. In fact, the sign of a healthy baby at birth, is that they cry.