I like the mumbling part. I asked my wife what she wanted for valentines day. She said she would like to be away from me for a while... Today she rightly said, I was treating her like I had a dog on a leash. I want her to go at my speed. Someone told me that when your spouse starts slowing down you have two choices. Either you try to speed her up or you slow down so you are together. I think speeding her up is not thr right choice and futile. So I have to learn to slow donw. And give her some space, even if she does strange things, I guess.