@1995victoria Sounds so like my father! Most places now won’t take cheques so my father has now given me a power of attorney to pay his bills out of his account by internet banking. He has a row of clear plastic tubs lined up on the family room table where he eats all his meals. They are all clearly marked with what’s in them. The end one closest to him has unpaid bills. He’s pretty good at putting his bills in there and I pick them up when I visit him (minimum 3 times a week) or another family member will photograph a bill and text it to me. I then bring back the invoice and a copy of the receipt and together we put it in his paid tub. We do need to go through the tubs regularly to make sure he hasn’t put something in the wrong tub and we also check next to his chair that he hasn’t kept something close by him! I take him to the bank so he can use his cheque to draw cash fortnightly for his personal spends. So far this system is working well. He still feels he is in control of his money and is across his finances.

He’s pretty good at accepting his limitations. We don’t make a big deal about them either. We want him to feel comfortable with where he’s at and not anxious.

He can’t drive any more (he would get lost very soon after leaving home) and his reactions are no longer what’s necessary. He was very good at choosing himself to stop driving after we’d been warming him up to the idea of taking life easy from the passenger seat some years ago. We are all his chauffeurs when he wants to go anywhere.