My husband has always taken on the lion’s share of keeping us going. I did anything having to do with finances: paying the bills, preparing for tax time, etc. We both did the laundry and cooking but in later years relied on take out meals and entrees from local food stores. He is still doing what he had done previously, but now has taken on more than ever. My hands shake so badly from anxiety that I showed him how to write out the checks. Some days I force myself to write a check and it looks like a 3 year old wrote it. My husband left the work force at 58 (lost his job) and I left my job at 60 (due to a hostile Department Head (big mistake). I think all these years of doing nothing has also led me to where I am now. Feeling useless. I see my therapist on Tuesday. I am afraid I am a lost cause and will never recover. We have started selling some prized possessions as we may have to move due to my increased feelings of isolation.