I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. The only suggestion I have is that you google something to the effect of vitamins/minerals/natural aids to help detox from venlafaxine. I did that, and took Vitamin D3, Vitamins B6 and B12 and folic acid, turmeric, zinc, magnesium and my regular calcium. I took time-release melatonin to help me sleep. I mixed 1 cup of club soda with one tbsp of natural apple cider vinegar and one tbsp of honey to help flush out my system. I drank turmeric tea, I added fresh ginger -- grated -- to as many things as I could. I've read posts by other people who used other natural supplements that help with anxiety and depression. I tried to walk 20-30 minutes a day. I watched movie comedies and reruns of TV comedies -- anything that would make me laugh (the physical act of laughing releases good compounds in the body) plus it got me at least temporarily out of a funk. I watched my caffeine and sugar intake pretty carefully. I ate lots of yogurt to help keep my blood sugar from plummeting. And I took epsom salts baths, especially with lavender epsom bath salts. They relaxed me and helped my muscles relax. It's a bitch that we need to create a whole self-care regimen for ourselves to get through this, but I had to do it -- and it did help. As far as worrying that you're ruining your marriage by going through this and the process taking longer and being harder than you'd hoped, flip it around: if your husband were going through something like this, would you be hanging in there with him and having extra patience and tolerance? I'm guessing the answer is yes.