@nseidel
Good Morning!
My eyes could not adjust to what I just read in your post.
No one, especially a child should speak to anyone the way you were talked to.
I know you must be cranky trying to get off the Effexor and I know you can use the support!
By the language, I guess your child is a teenager.
If you haven't done so yet or never have done it, it sounds like you might need to have a face to face sit down with him.
Your son needs to understand what you are going through and all the possibilities.
It might be better if you involve your son in your withdrawal.
Tell him there are signs that you need to know about, even if you can't see them yourself.
Making him a part of the 'cure' just might help.

Lots of luck!
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)