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@denise96

Good Morning. Sorry it has taken me so long to respond to your post. The last few days have been busy and yesterday was a horrible day. My husband was acting like a raving lunatic because he was having anxiety attacks. He was sobbing, shaking and he was screaming at me because I mentioned prayer for him. Told me to get away from him so I did. I left the room. I also was crying and did not know what to do. I called a priest as my husband is catholic but never a practicing one. I am methodist. Then I called Hospice to alert them of his behavior. The priest came out to give him his last rites. Joe seemed to quiet down at that time (of course, I had given him 3 of my own xanax). Hopsice did return my call and they said they would up his xanax. They told me that the next time he acts like this, I am to call them asap. He knows he is dying and he is angry and scared at the same time. I would be scared too. Then again, maybe he was in withdrawal because he was also out of his pain meds. He is an addict, I think I told you, and his meds have been cut way down since hospice found out about his overdose in september of last year. They have to protect their butt and I understand that. But if he makes them angry and/or tells them not to come back, he will have no one to give him pain meds. HIs pcp said she would never give him pain meds again because of all the times he lied to her. But if that happened, he would turn to street drugs. He is from a bad part of Pittsburgh and still has friends there that would get him whatever he needs. My Bells Palsy will never get better due to all this stress. This isn't the nicest thing to say but I wish the Lord would take him quickly and without any more suffering. Sorry for being so morbid today but yesterday just wore me out. I am sure you and your sister would understand. Have a good day.

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Good morning! I think you did the right thing by getting a priest to come out to see your husband. I have read that so many people are now having a hard time facing death because they no longer have faith and believe in God and the after life like people used to. Must have been crazy with him the last few days. My brother's nurses who visit him for in-home hospice keep telling him he can have any drugs he wants (as it is the end for him) for anxiety and pain. And he is okay with what they are giving him. He just sleeps a lot now. I think you are right about his need for more pain killers - I mean why not? Maybe he needs more priest time too to help calm him down. I hope he gets more pain meds - I can't imagine being in his predicament esp if he is going through withdrawal - who needs that! And don't worry about being morbid. I just hope for the best for him and you!