I do all of the cooking and my wife does the cleanup after dinner. She often washes items by hand, rather than put them in the dishwasher (which is what I would do). And she usually leaves greasy areas on pans and dishes. But she wants to "do her part" since I cook, and I think it important that I go along (but I could clean up in less than half the time it takes her). She is also very OCD and she has rearranged the utensil drawers (3 of them) multiple times (sometimes in the same week) and I never know where my favorite items are. She's also done the food pantry. I just have to let it go and not make an issue of it. She cannot help herself. None of this is easy. I have to keep reminding myself that I am the fortunate one (so far) because I still have (most of) my wits. I certainly wouldn't change places with her. I hurt for her.

Hi @elm123, my husband does the exact same thing! I gave up telling him the proper places to put things because he never remembers anyway so what's the point? Now I just go into the pantry, find all the things he's misplaced, and put them away.
I'm thankful he can help me by doing the dishes and I tell him so.
You're right: humor helps, and I often joke with my husband. It's good to know that he gets the humor in my absurd jokes and comments.