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Caregiving: Anyone else doing this alone?

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 22 hours ago | Replies (71)

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@elsmore

Hello. I am at the stage where my wife is giving up. Everyday now I deal with "I am dying, I am dead. You are killing me, why are you doing this, I don't want to be here, why can't I just die". Has anyone else experienced this? It is so depressing but I know that she can't help it, she is just expressing how she feels. Its just that it is everyday. Sometimes all day long, constant talk of dying and death. Is this normal?

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Gosh! How does one answer that?
My husband has never been diagnosed really, I am just going by what I have read etc, the one thing I do know is I heard there is no cure for mcl and a friend who was recently diagnosed is on medication and she said she feels nausea all the time, back to your question? My husband has said the odd thing about his memory but we have never discussed it, I don’t know where I would start so I keep plodding along. It’s hard to go through life disregarding her comments but I don’t know what to suggest other than maybe get a few hours to yourself for some quiet time. My heart goes out to you..

I hear that too. I just say things like your labs are good. You vitals are stable. You have a good appetite. My parents complain a lot. I actually think much of it is habit. Still, not much QOL based on their comments. They do much better when getting a lot of attention from family and friends. Once people resume their own lives with work and personal matters for the week, they resume their complaining again.