@readtalkgrow I’m so sorry to hear how many people don’t seek help because of the stigma they feel in seeking help from a mental health specialist, despite doing so on a confidential basis. That’s terrible that there are people who don’t feel safe doing that. That’s a massive issue in itself, right there.

I suffered from severe anxiety after my mother died very unexpectedly from small cell lung cancer. We thought she had the flu and less than 30 days later she was gone. I did seek help and did keep it secret, especially from my work. I knew that if I was validly angry about something at work the validity would be ignored. I knew that judgments would be made about my mental stability and ability to function. I know I was right to be ultra cautious, and I was promoted and reached the peak of my profession through therapy and medication with no one knowing! There’s no way I would have been able to do so if my condition was known. I did tell my sister once (who is a highly qualified senior nurse) expecting understanding and support. She said people like me shouldn’t be allowed to hold responsible positions!!! Incredible.

I learnt my lesson and I’ve flourished with a great therapist and GP.

After I took early retirement due to my stage 4 cancer fight, I’ve become much more open when I feel talking about my experience can help someone make choices.