One thing that I found that as well as comfort & absorbency, the look can make a difference.
90% of the pads & pants are white - which makes them look & feel like diapers.
This is a major & possibly long-term change in your life.
Obviously no-one else can see them, but how you feel matters.

I went with Tena pants partly because they're navy blue, so don't look like diapers.
For pads, I use Molicare.
The small ones are quite comfortable.

It got to a point where these were getting really expensive. So I asked the continence nurse if there was a way to make this cheaper.
I now receive a regular supply delivered to my door - all free.
And they even call back to see if I'm happy with the ones they sent.
The first box of free pads was ridiculously huge.
(idiot for scale)