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Advice on Penis pumps

Posted by graybeard46 @graybeard46, Jan 5 8:37am

I am 4 months post prostate surgery and soon to start radiation since some cancer still evident. The mental stress of cancer is bad enough but not having sex with my wife adds greatly to my getting down . I bought a pump from menmd a month ago but not able to get rigid enough for sex and the rubber tension ring is semi painful and makes any amount of of pleasure difficult. I’m tempted to try injections but with radiation and hormone treatments which kill my testosterone, maybe I should be more patient?

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peterj116 | @peterj116 | Feb 7 3:38pm
In reply to @heavyphil "Graybeard - no wonder you are depressed dealing with this imbecile! Sorry, no amount of letters..." + (show)
@heavyphil

Graybeard - no wonder you are depressed dealing with this imbecile! Sorry, no amount of letters after your name makes you “smart” or a TopDoc when you talk to patients in this manner.
Not saying that he should agree with your version of treatment, but He should be offering words of encouragement and solutions to your problems - NOT telling you “Dude, you’re gonna be dead soon, hug your grandkids…”
I think you should dump this guy after your treatment is complete - OR leave him now and get a second opinion on continuing ADT.
Who knows, maybe some other doc will agree with him that you do only have 5 yrs left and you should spend them screwing your brains out….just sayin…

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Agree. What happened to "Do no harm"?
You pay (a lot) for a quality service. He works for you.
You're not getting what you paid for & a doctor who's ready to give up already, is worthless.
Go somewhere else.

How would he like it if he took his pride & joy car to a mechanic & the guy said "Yeah, this is stuffed. Push it over a cliff. That'll be 500 bucks, thanks."

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graybeard46 | @graybeard46 | Feb 7 4:48pm
In reply to @peterj116 "Agree. What happened to "Do no harm"? You pay (a lot) for a quality service. He..." + (show)
@peterj116

Agree. What happened to "Do no harm"?
You pay (a lot) for a quality service. He works for you.
You're not getting what you paid for & a doctor who's ready to give up already, is worthless.
Go somewhere else.

How would he like it if he took his pride & joy car to a mechanic & the guy said "Yeah, this is stuffed. Push it over a cliff. That'll be 500 bucks, thanks."

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lol, hit the nail on the head , what’s important to one is not to another, I asked my wife how would feel if you had to live the rest of your life in a wheelchair, that’s how I feel

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jeffMar | @jeffmarc | Feb 7 5:24pm

After using the penis pump for a few months, I got a really bad rash from the water-based lubricant they use. Well, that was the end of the penis pump.

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heavyphil | @heavyphil | Feb 8 5:28am
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@tryjcr

One of the reasons I said no to treatment .I was 9 Gleason with pse of 56 oh yeah group 5. It has spread. My entire life was women. T the point of being sick. LOL. One wife playmate other S jet pilot. Then in between more than you can count. Sy one point not bragging I was an athlete. Walking down the street in fl. Girls would pull over they on vacation would ask take your shirt off so we can take a picture with you. More pics of me in bars there getting ,3 way kisses or boobs from ,2 or 3 girls. So I said no when I heard im potence. Problem is I ended up that way now. So tired hard to get up. Bad bone pain
I'm good with it I guess
I do wake up scared some days. Just got moving fast enough I guess
I stay to myself. I know people are sick of me actually telling them how I feel when I get asked. Good luck.

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So are you happy with your decision? Regrets?

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heavyphil | @heavyphil | Feb 8 8:55am
In reply to @graybeard46 "lol, hit the nail on the head , what’s important to one is not to another,..." + (show)
@graybeard46

lol, hit the nail on the head , what’s important to one is not to another, I asked my wife how would feel if you had to live the rest of your life in a wheelchair, that’s how I feel

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Graybeard, once again I am forced to give you a little smack off the back of your head!😁
Just yesterday I visited my friend Billy, a retired town judge, who had a stroke 2 yrs ago while fishing off Shelter Island. He is in a wheelchair and has tried everything to try to walk again; he’s doing some crazy alternative medicine thing now drinking DMSO and getting electropulse therapy or something. I told him he has nothing to lose at this point. He’s on medication for depression cause he just wants to die.
He said all he dreams about is walking with a cane - a cane, not even walking like he used to!! That’s how bad his experience has been.
So imagine being wheelchair bound for the rest of your life and your doctor said you could get out of that chair forever….BUT, you’d be impotent.
I know what my choice would be….

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graybeard46 | @graybeard46 | Feb 8 11:09am
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@heavyphil

Graybeard, once again I am forced to give you a little smack off the back of your head!😁
Just yesterday I visited my friend Billy, a retired town judge, who had a stroke 2 yrs ago while fishing off Shelter Island. He is in a wheelchair and has tried everything to try to walk again; he’s doing some crazy alternative medicine thing now drinking DMSO and getting electropulse therapy or something. I told him he has nothing to lose at this point. He’s on medication for depression cause he just wants to die.
He said all he dreams about is walking with a cane - a cane, not even walking like he used to!! That’s how bad his experience has been.
So imagine being wheelchair bound for the rest of your life and your doctor said you could get out of that chair forever….BUT, you’d be impotent.
I know what my choice would be….

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I’ll take the cane

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