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How do you let go of a toxic family member?
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So sorry you are going through this, especially after all you’ve been through with your family.
I had two reactions while reading this. First, could your sister’s blood cancer have affected her brain in such a way as to cause this behavior change?
Second, and totally opposite; is it possible she’s making this up as a way to manipulate/guilt trip you? I have no medical training and could be totally wrong but I’ve never heard of a blood cancer that has no treatment and a range of life expectancy that wide. No cure, yes, but no treatment? Hmmm. Two weeks to twenty years? Hmm. Is there a doctor or nurse you trust that you can ask?
Either way, you need to take care of yourself first and foremost. I just thought raising those questions might be helpful in thinking through a course of action.
I had a good friend who became toxic/verbally abusive that I had to let go; it’s a tough decision.
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Thanks for your advice and support. I appreciate it. I did think about the possibility that she was making the diagnosis up, she’s well known for being a great liar, but I saw the paperwork from the doctor and it is real.
I think that this diagnosis is effecting her brain but probably not in the way that you say. She’s been an abusive bully most of her life. It just wasn’t directed towards me very often. She thinks she is a good person. A victim of other people’s behaviors. She usually brings those behaviors on herself with her actions. She is very angry that this is happening to her. She thinks she doesn’t deserve it and that God has made a mistake.
Letting her go is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I feel like no contact at all is the best way to go.