I honor and celebrate you for having the backbone to stand up to the honest reality of your husband’s cognitive decline and resulting safety issues with driving, putting himself and other in danger.
I finally found the backbone- quietly changed the car registration to both names, took it to the dealer and sold it back to them, and got a ride home. When he noticed the car was gone, I told him we had to sell it because we needed the money. I hid the second set of keys to my car, hid the first when I wasn’t in the car, and naturally took the driver’s seat when we went out.
He was really angry at first, I kept repeating we needed the money, he eventually accepted that, and neither he nor any innocent pedestrians or other drivers got injured or killed. That was the bottom line for me.
Anybody remember that terrible accident years ago in CA where a senior drove into a farmers’ market and killed and injured many people? Turned out his family knew he was a danger but didn’t want to address it because it would have “made him really mad”.
Kudos to you for standing up and doing the very hard thing that needed to be done to protect him and the rest of us. Go You, Judy 🏆