Thanks for the suggestion of asking my sons. My youngest son is not working now. He does construction work and is very irresponsible. Lets just say that every gray hair I have came from him. My older son does help me alot as far as fixing my car, etc., and helping fix things around the house. He is a great kid. I just talked to my pcp and told her about my choking. She used to be my husband's pcp until he over dosed on his meds. She told him that she would never give him a pain med again. She was so angry with him. Anyhow, she said, "I hate to beat a dead horse, but I think most of these health problems that you are having now are stemming from the stress you are dealing with." I feel like such a wuss because I know that I don't have to deal with things like other caregivers do. Your sister for instance, I am sure has a much more stressful job of caring for your brother than I do caring for Joe. But I know there will come a day when I will be doing much much for him. It is so hard to watch someone you love suffer day by day. but he isn't suffering as much as your other people including your brother. Prayers for all of you. Have a great rest of your day.