I have a brother right now who is probably late stage head and neck cancer. It's a very painful cancer regimen as they give 35 radiation things to the neck/throat area to kill the tumor(s), with chemo. He was racked by pain, got to the point where his throat was filled with blisters. Could not sleep, eat, swallow, hardly talk. Had to get a stomach tube for nutrition. He fought me every step of the way in terms of taking opiates for the pain. He was afraid he would become an addict. Blue collar guy, very fun, has great taste in music, cars. He just fought me on the pain relief. He took ibuprofen instead and then out of the blue he burst a blood vessel in his throat and luckily was saved with two emergency tracheotomies. His doctors said it was because of the ibuprofen. He underwent two more chemo regimens and immunotherapy - no favorable results. Extreme pain but they gave him morphine in the hospital and he relaxed about opiates and takes some hydrocodone now which gives him relief. Finally, after not sleeping for over a year and in constant pain. I don't think there is a way to save him but he is on my mind a lot - he is in another state. People can be so impossible. So in that way I understand what you are dealing with. He could have saved himself so much grief if he just took opiates - now he will never be able to speak again and I miss his voice. He loves coffee - and is beyond fearful of swallowing. And it would make him so happy. Hasn't had a meal in a year. Cancer is hard on the family too. God Bless - take walks too - enjoy some nature!