@catartist when you said “(I’m 104 now)” I thought you were saying you are 104 years old and I thought “WOW!! I should live this long and have this kind of energy!” I see now you meant that is what you weigh - which still is remarkable! I am 78 and yo-yo between 125 and 129 lbs - but don’t have anywhere near your energy!
I am seriously thinking of downsizing my life too - but it’s tough because I am so sentimental!
@catartist when you said “(I’m 104 now)” I thought you were saying you are 104 years old and I thought “WOW!! I should live this long and have this kind of energy!” I see now you meant that is what you weigh - which still is remarkable! I am 78 and yo-yo between 125 and 129 lbs - but don’t have anywhere near your energy!
I am seriously thinking of downsizing my life too - but it’s tough because I am so sentimental!
Haha! After I sent it I realized it could read that way! Lol. My battles with RA, sever arthritis, (breast cancer 5 yrs ago) muscle atrophy in limbs ( possible adult onset muscular dystrophy, ) iGg IV theropy for low immunity), asthma, breast cancer etc leave me fatigued - not my usual self and artist at all! One reason that move was so so hard! But now weight back a bit and getting use to the emotional loss of so many years of our and parents history going to new lives elsewhere. That helps some. I am lucky to have my love of 56 married years having my back - and his isn’t a good one! What matters is family and I have that here too -2 of 8 grand! Think of positive and restart the ‘let go box’. Best of days to you!!!
@catartist when you said “(I’m 104 now)” I thought you were saying you are 104 years old and I thought “WOW!! I should live this long and have this kind of energy!” I see now you meant that is what you weigh - which still is remarkable! I am 78 and yo-yo between 125 and 129 lbs - but don’t have anywhere near your energy!
I am seriously thinking of downsizing my life too - but it’s tough because I am so sentimental!
Being sentimental is not the worst part of moving! It's the physical aspect of getting rid of what you won't need in a smaller place. I am starting now to get rid of things. Going through the basement, taking obvious discards to the thrift store and I don't even know if or where I will be moving.
I’ll share aour experience as a warning. I can’t do stairs now safely, so we ended up accepting our daughters invite to reconstruct a third garage bay and guest suite into a tiny wonderful two room , bath and kitchenette space. But OH my the move from lives in 25-27oo +sq foot homes to this! I lost 15 lbs I didn’t have ( 110-95) with the ‘let it go’ experience! Did tag sales, estate seller, eBay, art sellers etc. got very little for anything really and gave so much to Goodwill and Habitat - some yes wouldn’t take! Even dump! Awful! ( family did take some and we transported it to them - meant that much to us)
Perfectly usable attractive some valuable things! And some more of my chosen treasures got ‘lost’ in actual move. Not being able to lift and sort so easily added to it. Husband and daughter worn out. Just terrible for us. So grateful for space we have now and mostly that all doesn’t matter so much !! ( I am 104 now too). It hurts - but find a way to LET GO ( having pics can help). It’s quality of present life that counts !!!
Having pics can definitely help! 😃 As it happens, I am now, at almost 78, the "matriarch" of the family - no relatives at all except my own children and grandchildren. Sooo... all the stuff from all the ancestors that they couldn't bear to have fall out of the family, funneled down to me. I have managed sell or give to thrift stores what I don't want and what none of my kids want. Years ago when my husband and I downsized, our kids appreciated having some of our furniture - and they have it to this day. But I told them not to have any regrets about disposing of/selling things that they don't find useful or are not their taste. No one should be put on a guilt trip over "stuff", no matter how it comes to them, be it as a gift or inheritance or whatever. Once they come into possession, it's theirs to do with as they wish. Like you said, it's a quality of present life that counts - and for me, that's relationships. 😍
For me, I have early stage dementia. I live alone, and have only one son, but I can’t burden him with me.
I dread having to get rid of the things I love when it comes time to move into a 350 sq foot room.
I’ve already toured a few Assisted Living places. The rooms have no storage space even for clothes. One place didn’t even have a kitchenette in the rooms. If you wanted something to drink, you had to go down the hall to a common “kitchen”. No thank you…
For me, I have early stage dementia. I live alone, and have only one son, but I can’t burden him with me.
I dread having to get rid of the things I love when it comes time to move into a 350 sq foot room.
I’ve already toured a few Assisted Living places. The rooms have no storage space even for clothes. One place didn’t even have a kitchenette in the rooms. If you wanted something to drink, you had to go down the hall to a common “kitchen”. No thank you…
I had been to several of the Estate Sales by this company and observed how they ran the sale. You can google Estate Sales in your area, call them and interview a few until you feel comfortable, or plan to attend a sale they are doing to see them at work. Good luck!
Having pics can definitely help! 😃 As it happens, I am now, at almost 78, the "matriarch" of the family - no relatives at all except my own children and grandchildren. Sooo... all the stuff from all the ancestors that they couldn't bear to have fall out of the family, funneled down to me. I have managed sell or give to thrift stores what I don't want and what none of my kids want. Years ago when my husband and I downsized, our kids appreciated having some of our furniture - and they have it to this day. But I told them not to have any regrets about disposing of/selling things that they don't find useful or are not their taste. No one should be put on a guilt trip over "stuff", no matter how it comes to them, be it as a gift or inheritance or whatever. Once they come into possession, it's theirs to do with as they wish. Like you said, it's a quality of present life that counts - and for me, that's relationships. 😍
Very good point! Don’t stress others either. I had to watch that. But the idea that these things go to a new life somewhere and might be cherished- helps! DO hang onto a few things to just hug! Feels good! And makes room in heart and life for new/different things!
I’d love to be able to move into a retirement village but I can’t afford to. Look at the bright side that you won’t be alone in a house you can’t care for physically or financially with no one to talk to or help if need be. Aging sucks.
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@catartist when you said “(I’m 104 now)” I thought you were saying you are 104 years old and I thought “WOW!! I should live this long and have this kind of energy!” I see now you meant that is what you weigh - which still is remarkable! I am 78 and yo-yo between 125 and 129 lbs - but don’t have anywhere near your energy!
I am seriously thinking of downsizing my life too - but it’s tough because I am so sentimental!
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4 ReactionsHaha! After I sent it I realized it could read that way! Lol. My battles with RA, sever arthritis, (breast cancer 5 yrs ago) muscle atrophy in limbs ( possible adult onset muscular dystrophy, ) iGg IV theropy for low immunity), asthma, breast cancer etc leave me fatigued - not my usual self and artist at all! One reason that move was so so hard! But now weight back a bit and getting use to the emotional loss of so many years of our and parents history going to new lives elsewhere. That helps some. I am lucky to have my love of 56 married years having my back - and his isn’t a good one! What matters is family and I have that here too -2 of 8 grand! Think of positive and restart the ‘let go box’. Best of days to you!!!
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4 ReactionsBeing sentimental is not the worst part of moving! It's the physical aspect of getting rid of what you won't need in a smaller place. I am starting now to get rid of things. Going through the basement, taking obvious discards to the thrift store and I don't even know if or where I will be moving.
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4 ReactionsHaving pics can definitely help! 😃 As it happens, I am now, at almost 78, the "matriarch" of the family - no relatives at all except my own children and grandchildren. Sooo... all the stuff from all the ancestors that they couldn't bear to have fall out of the family, funneled down to me. I have managed sell or give to thrift stores what I don't want and what none of my kids want. Years ago when my husband and I downsized, our kids appreciated having some of our furniture - and they have it to this day. But I told them not to have any regrets about disposing of/selling things that they don't find useful or are not their taste. No one should be put on a guilt trip over "stuff", no matter how it comes to them, be it as a gift or inheritance or whatever. Once they come into possession, it's theirs to do with as they wish. Like you said, it's a quality of present life that counts - and for me, that's relationships. 😍
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11 ReactionsFor me, I have early stage dementia. I live alone, and have only one son, but I can’t burden him with me.
I dread having to get rid of the things I love when it comes time to move into a 350 sq foot room.
I’ve already toured a few Assisted Living places. The rooms have no storage space even for clothes. One place didn’t even have a kitchenette in the rooms. If you wanted something to drink, you had to go down the hall to a common “kitchen”. No thank you…
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5 Reactions@SusanEllen66 yes, for me too storage space is important, even if I have to downsize.
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2 ReactionsI had been to several of the Estate Sales by this company and observed how they ran the sale. You can google Estate Sales in your area, call them and interview a few until you feel comfortable, or plan to attend a sale they are doing to see them at work. Good luck!
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5 ReactionsVery good point! Don’t stress others either. I had to watch that. But the idea that these things go to a new life somewhere and might be cherished- helps! DO hang onto a few things to just hug! Feels good! And makes room in heart and life for new/different things!
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7 Reactionsmaybe with inflation on horizon, some "hand-me-downs" will be appreciated, rather than cheap junk they are now selling
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3 ReactionsI’d love to be able to move into a retirement village but I can’t afford to. Look at the bright side that you won’t be alone in a house you can’t care for physically or financially with no one to talk to or help if need be. Aging sucks.
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