From a guy who just went through the whole path: you're doing great! I don't know if you can take 1,000mg of Tylenol beforehand but certainly afterwards for the discomfort will probably help.

But the good news: I'm only 6 years your junior and was able to get through a total prostatectomy and have had zero erectile issues (even within 24 hours of surgery, which was a little weird) and today got my catheter out after a week and not a single drop of incontinence thus far (after several full normal bladder emptying sessions).

I say that because sometimes it's hard to find the good news online, but there is some to be found! If things stay like this then I'll be mostly normal for all this worrying and sleepless nights. My perineum hurts, but that was expected, and that'll stick with me for some weeks (got a special gel cushion with the middle out to help). Take it one day at a time!