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@susannac

Excuse me for jumping in but I have been back and forth with cancer and pain meds. I think it's better to let him decide as no one can know how much pain another person is in. That I have learned. For me they make me happy as do cigarettes. So I stick with doing both. And am happy. I didn't know 4 years ago if I would have made it (had a bad Keytruda reaction) and I have developed pain so I just take them and feel better and happier due to that. I mean why not feel good physically like I did in my 30s - maybe feeling this joy will help me continue to live my life in the best way possible. Ditto for cigarettes. People used to grow poppies and get opium in that way - I think in their tea, to ease older age aches and pains. I think a cancer person should not feel guilt about taking medication for pain. Sometimes people say they are afraid to take opiates I say I take them and am not addicted, I take them all the time (LOL). Life is not always easy. I hope the very best for you and your husband. Prayers to you!

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My husband does still smoke his cigarettes-3-4 packs a day. It is putting a strain on our finances. He has overdrawn his bank account twice now. I am left holding the bag. I don't care if he still smokes, but he should cut down. I can not afford to pick up the slack financially. I smoke, also but I started the cheapest cigarettes I could find because I can't afford the 11 dollar a pack marlboros. And he is on hospice now and twice now he has taken more of the meds they gave him. if he had screwed up again, they were going to withdraw from his care. The nurse said they did not want to do that so they are only giving him 3 days of meds at a time. He od on his oxys in september last year and almost died, While in the hospital for that, he went into cardiac arrest but they brought him back. He has been an addict most of his life abusing his pain pills. He got them legally for back pain but when he would run out, he would get them from someone else. Of course, these transactions happened when I was work. Our marriage has been a struggle. He did not use his pain meds for pain, he used them to get high. I think there is a difference between your situation and his. But hospice is wise to him now, and unless he begins to get them from someone else, he will get a three day supply for the duration, unless he gets to the point where his pain begins to get much worse. He takes oxycodone, oxycontin(morphine) and he also has liquid morphine which he is able to take at any time. So he has plenty of pain meds. And he also smokes marijuana. I don't say anything to him because I don't want him to suffer, but I also don't want him to abuse them. If hospice withdraws, he will be hard pressed to find a doctor who will prescribe him narcotics again. Thanks for your response and I hope you stay well.