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I’ll share aour experience as a warning. I can’t do stairs now safely, so we ended up accepting our daughters invite to reconstruct a third garage bay and guest suite into a tiny wonderful two room , bath and kitchenette space. But OH my the move from lives in 25-27oo +sq foot homes to this! I lost 15 lbs I didn’t have ( 110-95) with the ‘let it go’ experience! Did tag sales, estate seller, eBay, art sellers etc. got very little for anything really and gave so much to Goodwill and Habitat - some yes wouldn’t take! Even dump! Awful! ( family did take some and we transported it to them - meant that much to us)
Perfectly usable attractive some valuable things! And some more of my chosen treasures got ‘lost’ in actual move. Not being able to lift and sort so easily added to it. Husband and daughter worn out. Just terrible for us. So grateful for space we have now and mostly that all doesn’t matter so much !! ( I am 104 now too). It hurts - but find a way to LET GO ( having pics can help). It’s quality of present life that counts !!!
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Having pics can definitely help! 😃 As it happens, I am now, at almost 78, the "matriarch" of the family - no relatives at all except my own children and grandchildren. Sooo... all the stuff from all the ancestors that they couldn't bear to have fall out of the family, funneled down to me. I have managed sell or give to thrift stores what I don't want and what none of my kids want. Years ago when my husband and I downsized, our kids appreciated having some of our furniture - and they have it to this day. But I told them not to have any regrets about disposing of/selling things that they don't find useful or are not their taste. No one should be put on a guilt trip over "stuff", no matter how it comes to them, be it as a gift or inheritance or whatever. Once they come into possession, it's theirs to do with as they wish. Like you said, it's a quality of present life that counts - and for me, that's relationships. 😍