Until you can get some help (so sorry to hear what you are going through) maybe you could try “Wild Yam Cream”. I just started using it, I am 67 and is helping a lot with my sleep and dryness and hot flashes. You just rub a small finger scoop onto your arm, leg, chest wherever.
Good luck with your search.
It is awful that in this day and age, we are still being treated like we no nothing and are hypochondriacs.