I'm sorry you are going through that. It's almost nice to hear that he won't remember you telling him because it makes it a little easier to say it. I find with my mom that she remembers things when whatever is being said makes her angry. She can somehow hold those memories or at least the feeling of being mad at me. I also agree with you about not telling them things too far in advance. There's just no need to. I'm happy for you that he sounds easy going. I wish I had any of that with my mom. She's usually suspicious and sometimes mad and almost never easy to talk to.

No, she can't live with me. I work full time and she needs more care than I can give. I need to leave her at her home until I can talk her into an assisted living. I'd like to not move her multiple times if I can help it.