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Is it always a good idea to not contradict a person with dementia?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Feb 14, 2025 | Replies (45)Comment receiving replies
One thing I always tell myself., treat your spouse with respect. They have not asked to go through this unfortunate disease. (It's not easy with the constant questions on a conversation) Today he has tested my patience. Serenity Prayer!! The grate in the driveway broke after the FedEx truck made a delivery. Stuff happens.
My husband keeps obsessing on how we can fix this. I keep telling him I don't have an answer to his question.
Told him we will go tomorrow and get replacement grate. Everything is catastrophic in his mind.
SERENITY PRAYER!!!!
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I noticed that with my husband, too. I guess it's because he used to be the one who took care of things that needed to be fixed around the house and property. He didn't necessarily fix them all himself, but he used to go nearly every morning to a restaurant where he'd have breakfast and coffee with other men, many of whom were retired. He would ask them about whatever it was that needed fixed and for the names of reliable repairmen. Now I take care of all that (without going to coffee and breakfast with the guys, of course!). I've learned that when there is a problem that needs taken care of, I'm better off not talking about it any more than I have to. I just get it taken care of, and he's never gotten upset about it.