I hear you. Well, lately, my husband has not beens so demanding. He has been able to get up from his recliner and get his own coffee and make his own food which is usually mcrowaveable. If he does ask me to make him something to eat, will do it, but if he wants to do it himself, maybe that is a good thing. As far as driving or even going outside to get in the car, he can't do it. He is not balanced enough to do that. He does fall at least once a week. We have hopsice involved now and I am glad because they come twice a week to check on him and they count his meds, That is a good thing because he always took double of what they prescribed him, Now they are bringing a lockbox with them on monday and it will cotain 7 sleeves which will hold all the meds that he needs for that day. I have to keep the key so he does not get in there and take more. He is not going to like that. He is used to taking as many as he wanted. He is an addict. But like the nurse explained, they can't really tell how much pain is is really in until they see how he does on the correct amount of pain pills. Then after that they can make adjustments. I can just here him bugging me for more but I will not go against their wishes. He just wants to get high but now he says it is because he is in pain. How would I know if he is telling the truth? He can just call the hospice nurses and plead his case to them. One of the previous responses said that her husband lived 14 more years without treatment. Sorry to say this but I don't think I could handle the next 14 years of my life living like this. God help me. Oh and my husband smokes too, He goes through 100 dollars every 3 or 4 days getting me to buy his cigarettes. In the meantime, he has overdrawn his bank account and is now using his credit cards to buy cigarettes, Meanwhile, I am struggling to pay most of all the household bills. He won't get his SSD check until feb 12. I refuse to buy his cigarettes because I barely have any money left from my pension, and SSA from paying all the bills I have. He is going to ruin me financially on his way out. What a mess.