Ok -now we really are on a similar path because I do the same with our old dog. At one time both my husband and my dog were sick and they incontinet and I was cleaning up after both of them. I had to make a joke out of it.

I ask my husband his choices for dinner, dessert, etc. I am learning what questions work and which ones do not- but everyday is a new learning experience.

Hang in there and know you are not alone.