I had mitral valve repair 4 years ago. I was 74 then. Was in intensive care for 5 days and came home to to an empty house and took care of myself. Believe me, this surgery was easier than my shoulder surgery 2 years before that. There is no real pain, just hurts. You will have many restrictions but you will manage with a gripper to pick up things. Maybe you could get Meals on Wheels or someone to help with food. Good luck, my friends. Prayers help.