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Wife's MCI diagnosis accelerating: Feeling alone
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Feb 5 9:15am | Replies (11)Comment receiving replies
Greetings, I am in a similar situation: husband diagnosed with MCI about a year ago and still (mostly) cares for himself but has stopped doing most anything around the house and property unless I specifically ask him (and there is pushback sometimes if he doesn't feel like doing the chore or task, or maybe it's too hard or confusing now).
Sometimes I do not handle the changes very well, becoming the household manager, handling finances, taxes, repairs, etc.
I had an anxiety attack the other day, worrying about what will become of my husband and what to expect; how bad will he get?
I mourn the loss of our marriage and the loss of a husband who is now more like a friendly roommate.
I have no family close by, but check in with my sibs when I feel I'm struggling to cope.
Our local dementia support group meets monthly, so I hope you find some form of support for the bad days. Hugs.
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My situation is very similar. My wife can go for days and not get out of her pj's. She rarely suggest doing anything and quite often will spurn my suggestions (ie, walk or game). I find patience is my best ally and do my best with bill paying, household maintenance, cooking and caregiving.
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Exactly. Thank you for your reply. I created a very simple chore list on the fridge split between the 2 of us and our beagle. The beagle's chores are 1) licks my dinner tray clean; 2) stay cute. My wife is keeping upstairs clean (including dishes), outdoors poop patrol, and emptying the garbage. I do the rest. She is doing well with this chart to look at. But I, too, mourn the loss of our marriage (yep, she's more a roommate now) and wish she had a social circle to turn to but she doesn't have any close friends and wishes to just stay home. I plan all of our activities and she happily enjoys them unless there is a lot of exercise involved. It is a lonely journey.