We meet (virtually) with the surgeon on Tuesday. The wait is just crazy. We are assuming surgery first but then my husband got a notice about meeting with the oncologist. That appointment wasn't until mid March. He got a note on Friday that it could be moved up to Feb 6. Not sure when surgery will be but hopefully we will find out this week.
Sorry to hear your husband is struggling mentally. With his treatment starting already it's probably hitting him because of the reality of it all. Right now we have just been living life as normal with a lot of uncertainty with treatment. I hope the chemo continues to go well. Keep me posted and I'll do the same. My husband also has 3 lymph nodes that they think will need to be removed. Did they say your husbands cancer has spread anywhere?