@pcetng0202 many people in my in-person support group had difficulties leaving their spouse or loved one. Our group leader warned us that we might be caregiving for many years and needed to also save ourselves. I ended up spending 8 years when I expected less. I was grateful for the advice.

Your local senior center, council on aging, elder services organization may be able to provide advice on how to have someone come to give you a chance to leave. I actually had a job years ago with a 93 year old woman, mainly to take her out to lunch. Some organizations provide volunteers (the "Village" movement here in MA). I continued tai chi and art class and I believe it saved my life. And an in-person support group with a leader who advised me for all those years.

Our local council on aging provides dementia training and a "dementia friends" program locally. Hospice volunteer programs also hold courses on how best to handle dementia. We also have "Memory cafe's where both caregiver and cared for person attend. I participated in that.

There are a lot of resources, including books! Art and music are also really helpful to the person with dementia. You could take classes together! Getting out of the house is a hard priority to have as a caregiver, but I was told often the stress and isolation mean the caregiver dies first.

My mother qualified for hospice based on dementia alone, which provided free aides 5 days a week , a volunteer to spell me, a social worker, nurse and chaplain. We used hospice for 3 years. You are not there yet, not at all, but I mention that as a resource that is underused due to the connotation of the word "hospice."