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Hi, @woojr.
Your Mom sounds like a great lady. I am so impressed with her longevity and her ability to maintain some independence. But I am just so sad...and MAD...about unscrupulous people who have taken advantage of her. Unfortunately, this has happened to so many seniors who are so trusting and vulnerable. I am glad that your Mom does allow you to help her with some things. Some older folks won't let anybody help them although they clearly need help. Best wishes to your Mom and to you and your family. 💕

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Thanks for the nice comments. Thought I'd update from last night's phone call for an idea of mom's world and what it's like for my wife and me. I called her about 8 pm as normal. She informed me she was not going to take her break through high BP med. It's a take as needed med which she has been taking most nights. She tells me she hasn't had high BP and only takes the pill occasionally. Then she tells me why. She says she's been seeing orange spots and something she read said it was caused by the pill she says she rarely takes. She also said she's been seeing the spots since last July. That was about the same time she saw the eye doctor for her routine visit. She claims she told the doctor that she's been seeing the orange spots and he simply said "don't worry them." This is a fairly new doc who grew up locally and is as nice as can be. My wife worked with his mother. I tried to get her to agree that if her BP went over 160 she'd take the pill. Then she went quiet. I explained the risks of BP going out of control a possible stroke and she told me the pills were making her go blind. I said we need to make an appointment to see the eye doctor ASAP and she should rest her eyes. Less screens and reading. She puts heating pads on her eyes and drops in 3-4 times a day. She takes a lot vitamin supplements that have large amounts of redundancy in what's in them. She's always believed that more is better. My wife and I are heading over there in an hour to see her and find out what she's really doing. My guess is it'll be a surprise. You see she's been talking about dry eye for a few years but never anything about spots. She has regular visits to the eye doctor and refuses to wear prescription glasses that they've prescribed for a long time. She prefers a magnifying glass. I'll end with this, aging scares me to death. I need two surgeries, shoulder and hernias. I understand what she's dealing with but she's a challenge. Oh and she told me someone almost crashed into her recently and she was scared. I've talked to the family doctor and motor vehicle people. No help there. They tell her how amazing she is... Now the spots??? I've tried taking the keys away and she bought a new car.