Hi, pcetng0202. Among my friends of my age (89) are a number with similar challenges from their spouses and partners. Their practice comes from a shared strategy that tries to avoid managing or controlling needs, necessities, or wishes of a partner who is descending into dementia. And it's not simple:

Use good and polite questions rather than complaints, directions, or accountability tricks; and do so with an understanding tone that life for senior citizens has become much more complicated for a lot of reasons, perhaps mostly because of digital tools and data bases that are now being employed at every level of conscious human observation, interaction, achievement, and celebration, but also because of thought pollution caused by artificial intelligence and almost daily new findings from scientific research that past practices and recipes are obsolete -- even hazardous -- and must be replaced now. Under the circumstances, continuous education is essential to us all to keep up with changes that must be made, and that also commends to us the importance of sharing information and ideas with as any friends as time allows, giving us the benefits of group insights and efforts to understand and share answers to newly vital challenges. Martin