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Advice on Penis pumps

Posted by graybeard46 @graybeard46, Jan 5 8:37am

I am 4 months post prostate surgery and soon to start radiation since some cancer still evident. The mental stress of cancer is bad enough but not having sex with my wife adds greatly to my getting down . I bought a pump from menmd a month ago but not able to get rigid enough for sex and the rubber tension ring is semi painful and makes any amount of of pleasure difficult. I’m tempted to try injections but with radiation and hormone treatments which kill my testosterone, maybe I should be more patient?

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clandeboye1 | @clandeboye1 | 3 days ago
In reply to @chippydoo "Perhaps time to explore other methods of sex with your wife? While sex was way up..." + (show)
@chippydoo

Perhaps time to explore other methods of sex with your wife? While sex was way up my list, it's not so much today. Our intimacy is further complicated by the HER2 breast cancer she had. Complications due to her not being able to take hormones. Have you tried Cialis? My surgeon prescribed them after my first post op visit.

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I never cease to be amazed at tthe concern with an erection and sex .
How aboout priority # 1 " Surviving Cancer " Not dying too soon .
I also read about husbands being turned off by their spouses losing one or both breasts .
If sex is a priority - Something is seriously wrong in this relationship .
And believe me - I loved sex as much as anybody , mybe more . Get past it and enjoy the rest of your life with your family . Happily married 58 years .

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chippydoo | @chippydoo | 3 days ago
In reply to @clandeboye1 "I never cease to be amazed at tthe concern with an erection and sex . How..." + (show)
@clandeboye1

I never cease to be amazed at tthe concern with an erection and sex .
How aboout priority # 1 " Surviving Cancer " Not dying too soon .
I also read about husbands being turned off by their spouses losing one or both breasts .
If sex is a priority - Something is seriously wrong in this relationship .
And believe me - I loved sex as much as anybody , mybe more . Get past it and enjoy the rest of your life with your family . Happily married 58 years .

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Not sure why you addressed this to me.

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graybeard46 | @graybeard46 | 3 days ago
In reply to @clandeboye1 "I never cease to be amazed at tthe concern with an erection and sex . How..." + (show)
@clandeboye1

I never cease to be amazed at tthe concern with an erection and sex .
How aboout priority # 1 " Surviving Cancer " Not dying too soon .
I also read about husbands being turned off by their spouses losing one or both breasts .
If sex is a priority - Something is seriously wrong in this relationship .
And believe me - I loved sex as much as anybody , mybe more . Get past it and enjoy the rest of your life with your family . Happily married 58 years .

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Sorry friend but we each have our priorities what makes our life important. Sounds like you’re older than I but as a hot blooded French and Italian at a young minded 78 yr old love is is the most gift of life that I live by . If I knew for sure I was done in that department I would feel I was on life support. My guess is you are older mentally and physically than I . Quality of life is more important than being on life support. I have lived an exciting and rewarding life life until now , time will tell if I can accept fee like I’m on life support

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graybeard46 | @graybeard46 | 3 days ago
In reply to @chippydoo "Not sure why you addressed this to me." + (show)
@chippydoo

Not sure why you addressed this to me.

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My apologies

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clandeboye1 | @clandeboye1 | 3 days ago

I am older but far from mentally and physically impaired - in fact I would probably leave you in the dust . We continue to travel the world . Have a winter home in California and I play golf 6 times per week - off a 6 handicap BLUE TEES - PGA WEST , LA QUINTA . Sorry , with your attitude you should be on life support . Life for you has a narrow focus .

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retireddoc | @retireddoc | 2 days ago
In reply to @peterj116 "How late is too late to even begin rehab? I'm still struggling with incontinence & waiting..." + (show)
@peterj116

How late is too late to even begin rehab?
I'm still struggling with incontinence & waiting to see another surgeon about an artificial urinary sphincter.
Erectile function is way down the list of priorities right now.
Four months post-op.

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I was recommended the book "Life After Prostatectomy and Other Urologic Surgeries: 10 weeks from Incontinence to Continencee" By Gaglani. Available on Amazon. She is a pelvic floor PT specialist who has treated thousands of guys with our problem. Comprehensive discussion of the causes of incontinence and a specific day by day game plan to improve. It's worth a try before resorting to surgery.

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graybeard46 | @graybeard46 | 2 days ago

I’m happy for you, not sure about leaving me in the dust , try getting up at 2am , travel a 100 miles and fighting a giant tuna by yourself and getting home 15 hrs later.

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peterj116 | @peterj116 | 2 days ago
In reply to @retireddoc "I was recommended the book "Life After Prostatectomy and Other Urologic Surgeries: 10 weeks from Incontinence..." + (show)
@retireddoc

I was recommended the book "Life After Prostatectomy and Other Urologic Surgeries: 10 weeks from Incontinence to Continencee" By Gaglani. Available on Amazon. She is a pelvic floor PT specialist who has treated thousands of guys with our problem. Comprehensive discussion of the causes of incontinence and a specific day by day game plan to improve. It's worth a try before resorting to surgery.

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Thanks for that. Doesn't ship to New Zealand.
I'll have a look around.

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graybeard46 | @graybeard46 | 1 day ago
In reply to @clandeboye1 "I am older but far from mentally and physically impaired - in fact I would probably..." + (show)
@clandeboye1

I am older but far from mentally and physically impaired - in fact I would probably leave you in the dust . We continue to travel the world . Have a winter home in California and I play golf 6 times per week - off a 6 handicap BLUE TEES - PGA WEST , LA QUINTA . Sorry , with your attitude you should be on life support . Life for you has a narrow focus .

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Hope you walk the 18 holes no golf cart . Stay healthy my friend

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j5225 | @j5225 | 1 day ago
In reply to @kenpelan "Thanks for taking the time to write this reply. Not a pretty picture" + (show)
@kenpelan

Thanks for taking the time to write this reply.

Not a pretty picture

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All the radiologists, doctors and surgeons I talked to were quite open about the fact that the erection returning could take months or years or could be never.
I made the decision and I'm quite happy with the results. I'm cancer free and physically recovered except for the erection thing. If the penis starts working in future then great, if it never does then so what.
There is being alive then there is being dead from cancer. I have had several friends and relatives die with AND from cancer it was never pretty nor easy.

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