I was recommended the book "Life After Prostatectomy and Other Urologic Surgeries: 10 weeks from Incontinence to Continencee" By Gaglani. Available on Amazon. She is a pelvic floor PT specialist who has treated thousands of guys with our problem. Comprehensive discussion of the causes of incontinence and a specific day by day game plan to improve. It's worth a try before resorting to surgery.