Thank you for that exact sentence: “Never say (don’t you remember”

It is SO hard.

We are not at the stage where many in this group are…my husband still drives to familiar places, and helps with dinner clean up, shovels the sidewalk etc. But he talks to me all day long! Now that I am trying to learn how to do our finances (he’s always done them) sometimes I’m in the middle of something my brain struggles with when he asks the question yet a 4th time in a ten minute span. I need to remember to think a few seconds before I reply. And thank you to mtdt757 (above) for reminding me of the Serenity prayer. It has always been a favorite of mine. I need it now more than ever. He used to pick on me for stuff so the “don’t you remember?” Part sometimes just slips out of my mouth like the gentle sarcasm joking we used to do with each other. The changes are so subtle that sometimes I forget he is changing from the person I’ve been married to for 51 years.