My dear friend just lost her daughter two months. I think it must be a different pain for a mom. She left behind a young son. Just an hour before she spoke to her she was fine. She also found her which must be the hardest thing. I’ve experienced the loss of parents but not my own children. I have no words for her and other than being there to listen I can’t seem to do much more.

I don't understand her pain. It makes it hard. She wants nothing to do with group therapy, therapy alone or any conversation about god and I get it. She’s angry one day, so depressed the next.
We do all seem to get through the pain of death in our own way. Some need years and that’s fine. I just want to be there for her but sometimes she wants nothing to do with people.
I don’t know how you will do it. I think you will because I think it’s what humans always do. We experience life and death in our culture and will continue to do that. I think you need someone to just listen to you. They can’t give opinions, just listen. It might be a happy memory you sharing or a day your angry and mad at her. I think just someone to listen. I’m so sorry for your loss and I can only hope you find a way to figure out why you’re supposed to be here. Find a good friend who will listen. I wish you happiness in your life.