Thank you for that exact sentence: “Never say (don’t you remember”

It is SO hard.

We are not at the stage where many in this group are…my husband still drives to familiar places, and helps with dinner clean up, shovels the sidewalk etc. But he talks to me all day long! Now that I am trying to learn how to do our finances (he’s always done them) sometimes I’m in the middle of something my brain struggles with when he asks the question yet a 4th time in a ten minute span. I need to remember to think a few seconds before I reply. And thank you to mtdt757 (above) for reminding me of the Serenity prayer. It has always been a favorite of mine. I need it now more than ever. He used to pick on me for stuff so the “don’t you remember?” Part sometimes just slips out of my mouth like the gentle sarcasm joking we used to do with each other. The changes are so subtle that sometimes I forget he is changing from the person I’ve been married to for 51 years.

When things start getting touch n go i usually do not respond..some days he screams loud outside saying I can't do it and I am not going to do it. He had no patience whatsoever and being bi-polar also is scarey but I try to join him in watering the garden and flowers. Last nite he forgot to water flowers I said they would die..he said we'll let them die or you do it. I am constantly picking up the slack its like being a manager all over again but instead of college kids and high schoolers its a 76 year old man. Everyday is different. I do not allow my hubby to drive at all. I mow the lawn and weed it bought things that I could handle like smaller lawn mower and smaller battery operated weed eater. Life goes on try real hard to stay happy...say self today is another day we can do this. I sure would love to crawl into his head just for 5 minutes.