I am my husband's fiduciary through the VA. He has Lewy Body Dementia and is 100% disabled. A representative from the VA did come to the house and interviewed me and talked with my husband in person. It was decided that I would be able to manage my husband's financial affairs. This opened the door to filing for Aide in Attendance, Caregiver Support and other programs through the VA. The two programs I mentioned have helped us tremendously in many ways. There was very little paperwork after the initial application. When it is a spouse, the VA does not require a lot of paperwork....so far, in the past four years, they have asked me for nothing. If something happens to me, then another family member can apply, but that person would be monitored closer and would have to do a bit more paperwork. Regardless, even if it was lots of paperwork, I would gladly do it. The amount of money he receives has made it possible for us to hire two others to help him and it helps to keep him in our home. We have other benefits from the VA, and it makes me very proud of my husband's commitment to our country. I am grateful for the VA's position that the caregiver is an important person to our soldier and to our country. Do apply and don't be afraid - once you are approved, it is an easy process. (Plus, it protects you legally. I have used my fiduciary status to sign many papers and it helped me be approved for guardianship for him as well. ) Hope this helps. I will watch for other questions that you may have going forward. Best wishes to you.