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Lung cancer stage 4: Anyone's spouse refuse to help themselves?
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Thank you for your kind words and concern. This morning, my husband told me that he has decided not to go through any more chemoimmunotherapy treatments. He has only had about 4 good days since starting the treatments. He has no appetite and just is suffering so much that he just wants it to end. I called the oncology nurse this morning and am waiting for a call back. The oncologist had told him at the beginning, that without treatment he may have 6 months. With treatment, 2 years. But only God knows. One of my biggest fears is that he does not know Jesus. He believes in God, but he does not believe that Jesus performed miracles or that he was born of a virgin. I have tried talking about this with him, but he just gets angry and tells me that I am crazy if I believe all that stuff in the bible. I asked him if he wanted my pastor to come talk to him and he said NO. I might have her come anyhow. Thinking about him going to hell (which he also does not believe in) scares me more than anything. I am not a model christian but I do believe that Jesus is my personal savior although I probably have given him some gray hairs. lol I am a believer. I need to get ready to go to the store before the visiting nurse gets here. Thanks again and take care of yourself.
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Denise,
Perhaps some of the physical problems your husband is having may be due to having both the chemotherapy and immunotherapy. Sometimes it can be too much on your body even if it's supposed to be good for you. Maybe he just needs to give his body a rest for a while. You are right about only God knowing when we die. My husband quit having chemotherapy and immunotherapy and even refused anymore CT scans since they accidentally gave him the wrong medicine and it affected his memory for a while. However, he also lived 14 years with cancer and no treatments. I think it was an answer to all of our prayers.
It's too bad that your husband only believes in God and not Jesus but it's good that at least he believes in God. Don't feel like your husband is going to hell. God is a loving and forgiving God. He understands what your husband is going through now and why he is thinking like he is. God knows that your husband is ill and probably very frightened. What you need to do now is what us Christians are supposed to do and that is pray for your husband. Ask God to help your husband believe in Jesus and that he is the savior. Put everything in God's hands and just have faith. It will work.
I wouldn't call in the pastor. Sometimes they can just be irritating to people who are questioning the Bible. Your poor husband doesn't need anymore stress in is life. He's dealing with enough.
I will continue to pray for both of you also.
PML